I Give All of Myself- And I End up Finding Myself

I have never felt more joy than in this moment, when I feel my viewpoint is no longer focused on myself but on others. If I am thinking of myself, I am contemplating how I can better myself so that I might be able to give more to others. I have never cared more about other people- not truly- until these last few weeks.Until now, I don’t think I knew how to.

11811304_10205168430145117_4936715151639915644_nThis may bring shame to the perspective I used to have. I feel exposed and slightly embarrassed. But that’s the truth; I never knew how to invest myself in another person without expecting self-centered pleasure in return- without being in want of attention or affection. I never thought I’d perform a task for any other reason. I’m ashamed to say this. However, I finally feel ready to admit it to myself and to others. I hated myself for functioning in this way. Sometimes I still do.

I’m glad I’ve found a part of me that I can admire again. I’m relieved to discover a part of of me I never knew had potential- the part of me that can love others selflessly and honestly.

Teaching is something my 15-year-old self would have never considered as part as her future. My heart would pump out of my chest, my face would turn red, and I would sweat profusely every time I had to speak in front of others. If someone even looked at me for more than a second, my embarrassment was apparent to everyone. It is weird to think that that person was me…I no longer identify with any of those feelings. And yet, when I was feeling them, I thought I would be bullied byย  fits of embarrassment forever. A few years ago, I stopped feeling this way for the most part. After teaching for just three weeks, I don’t ever feel this way.

I thrive in silliness, in drawing attention to myself- so that other people might feel liberated enough to do the same. So that other people might stop looking at themselves, and begin observing the situation from above. . . so that others might begin to love themselves as I have begun to love myself.

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I'm the mother of a 1 year old, a wife, and a anthropology grad living in Beijing.

4 Comments on "I Give All of Myself- And I End up Finding Myself"

    I can totally identify with this! In fact, I was just thinking on my way to school this morning about the few things for which I’ve been willing to stand in front of people, which used to be something I would not do easily. I realized that it’s either been singing, teaching, or reciting poetry… and I suppose that says a lot about how significant those things are to me. I remember in college I went through a time period where it seemed like my face turned red so easily, and it was so embarrassing! I hated it! Rarely happens now, though, thankfully.

    So glad things are going well for you and you’re finding your groove! ๐Ÿ™‚

    That is so awesome to hear!! Look at us go ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m glad both of us are overcoming those fears. You are so sweet and kind. Thank you so much. It’s cool to hear from another teacher. Although I’m not really even a qualified teacher, ha. You sound like a great one ๐Ÿ™‚

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